A mirror is a physical reflection. Without a mirror, we see the world we are in, but not ourselves. We see all the people and objects around us. A mirror lets us join that visual. We can have that one piece that is otherwise missing. The mirror shows us not what we may construct in our heads, but what everyone else sees. That is where we start.
Do we accept what you see in the mirror? Do you like what you see?
Regardless if you are a Dom, or sub, or both, the important part is not which role we claim, but that we love who we are in that role. If we go to a carnival funhouse, we can see ourselves in mirrors designed to distort. We laugh because we know they are something else. That they are not us. We know this about funhouse mirrors, but we do not always recognize it in the funhouse mirrors of our own mind.
Just as we would laugh at a funhouse mirror, we should laugh at our attempts to distort the realities in our own mind. A mirror gives us a chance to see ourselves from the outside, so if we avoid, obscure, or paint over that, we are deceiving ourselves, and most probably failing.
If any of us (and I include myself in this) are not happy with what the mirror shows us, that is an opportunity. Whether it be a physical imperfection or a mental one, the opportunity is always there to accept, change, or improve upon it.
Strip away the expectations of others like we would strip away clothes. You can be honest with yourself. If you are a sub, and being a sub makes you happy, then you are in a good position. Same with being a Dom or a switch. It’s not about the images others project upon us, or what they want us to be. It is the truth of the image we see in the mirror, and how we come to love and accept that truth.
Take a moment to evaluate if you are truly happy with yourself. If you are, look for any chance of improvement. Not in a critical way, but in a way that celebrates the evolution of your self. If you are not, what is the first step in changing what you do not like about yourself? It may be accepting who you are now. Where you start is not where you will always be, but we all need to accept where we start from. Make that first step small and achievable.
If you feel the need to improve, and I think everyone has room for improvement, love your starting point, because one day you will look back and be glad you started. Show yourself some physical self-love. Wank in front of your mirror, if not for who you are, but who you will be. Adding a physical component to your life will give you inspiration and motivation. Everyone has the right to find happiness so that the image they see in the mirror matches the best version of themselves in the real world.
-MaxRPotter
Elysium Lifestyle 