The Basics

On your device, there will be a slider. With this, you will be controlling the intensity as well as the frequency of vibrations. By varying these two factors, you’ll have your sub squirming and begging for more.

But first, I highly recommend the following at the start of every session:

1. Have the sub state their role and readiness. This helps to reaffirm the power dynamic and gives them agency for consent. “I’m a faggot and I’m ready to be controlled by you, Sir.”
2. Start by slowly increasing the vibration to about 10-20%, asking for confirmation of sensation. “Can you feel me in you?”
3. Lower the vibration back to zero to reset. Now would be a good time for them to take a hit of poppers, if that is something that was agreed upon.
4. Now gradually increase the power in one slow, but steady climb until it is at maximum power.
5. Hold it there for a few seconds before slowly bringing the intensity back down to zero.
6. Take note of at which levels they made which particular sounds.

Now that you have your baselines, you are ready to be creative.

By varying the intensity, you are controlling the strength of intention.
By varying the frequency between intensity pulses, you are creating waves and surges.

Remember: it is not always necessary to be at maximum intensity with maximum frequency, as the receiver’s hole will become acclimated and numb to this stimulation. It’s just like fucking; jackhammering can be fun, but anything for too long becomes boring.

Vary these two techniques to “tell a story” through your control. Remember: you are the conductor, they are the instrument.

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Advanced Techniques

Your voice is just as important of a device to help a sub/receiver get to that sub-space where they forget they are using a toy. Be deliberate with your words as you take your sub to wherever it is you are leading them.

As you talk, you can use the slider to match your words.

Using intense language? Increase the intensity of vibration.
Using a commanding tone or talking quickly? Increase the frequency of vibration.
Using language to tease or a slower tone to make them hungry for more? Lower the frequency but spike the intensity for the important words you use.
Mimicking a trainer video? Match your even tone to a slow wave that throbs.

Don’t be afraid to experiment with different variations and you’ll find a way to match your actions with your words so the sub/receiver will both hear and feel your presence.

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Another way to experiment is through music.

Find a song (or create a playlist like I have here) and share it with your sub/receiver. Together, listen to its rhythm and match your vibrations to the beat. If there is a surge in the music, kick up the intensity to match. “Perform” the song through your fingers, and let the sub/receiver feel music in a way they never thought possible.

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Aftercare

Just like with any other session, ensure there is aftercare to bring your sub back down to a place where they can stabilize. This is especially important if they found themselves cumming only from your control of their hole.

And if you were the recipient of a remote-play session, make sure you thank your Dom/controller. While it can be fun to be in control, it still takes work and focus, so thank us for our time which we gave to you.

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At the end of the day, the goal is to have fun through control. No two people are the same, so every experience, regardless if you are the controller or the recipient, will be unique. Find your style. Find your pleasure spots. Find your release.

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Do you have any questions about this lesson? Have any tips or devices you would recommend? Share them in the comments below or on our Discord in the #remote-play channel.