It might seem strange to start a post about hierarchy and service with a quote from a Pulitzer Prize-winning female author, but Buck said it more eloquently than we every could.

As we have been exploring all month, there are certain archetypes associated with the strata and roles we find ourselves in, but none of these have absolute qualifiers related to the physicality of our very being.

Look at the photo below. What is your immediate impression of where he sits in the hierarchy?

Most of us would quickly say, and with much certainty, “That is an Alpha”. But why? We see the picturesque setting and him standing in front of a nice car, both implying financial success. We see his chiseled jaw, wide-legged stance, muscled arms lifted in confidence. We see all of these things and, because we have been conditioned to ascribe those qualities to Alphas, we think he must be an Alpha.

But what if I told you that this photo was of a submissive who just got done with his chores for his Alpha: washing his Alpha’s car, working out to keep himself healthy for his Alpha, hands raised up in praise for the Man who has claimed him, and whose Man will soon have him bent over in that backseat for a quick breeding.

Probable? No. Possible? Of course. Earlier this week, gympredator shared his photos and lifestyle with us. He may look like a beast of an Alpha, but that submissive is a 100%, unapologetically self-proclaimed faggot. You can look like society’s definition of an Alpha and be a faggot. Or you can look like the complete opposite, yet still be confident that you sit with your Alpha brothers at the top of the hierarchy.

At its core, an Alpha shapes the world around him. He leads his life and is a catalyst for change. He does not have to conform to any of the physically defining characteristics that porn and Twitter have thrust upon us to claim his birthright. If he was that weak as to be defined by someone else’s (physical) definitions, then he wouldn’t be an Alpha. This means that Alphas can be tall or short, muscular or thin or fat, hairy or smooth, old or young. Being an Alpha is not something that is dependent upon meeting someone else’s narrow definition. These definitions only seek to arbitrarily exclude, to suppress, and to stigmatize the “kaleidoscopic variety” that can be found in the phylum that is Alpha-dom. And we all know what happens when you try to cage a beast.

On the other end of the hierarchy, we have submissives, who we often associate as looking like:

And why? His toned and lithe body isn’t what we associate with the broad shoulders and masculine dimensions of an Alpha male. We were all his age once (some still are!), even the Alphas, but does that mean that they weren’t Alphas back then because they might have looked like him? Because they were young? Because they were smooth?

Many submissives and faggots will look at him and negatively internalize the face that they don’t look like this deigned archetype of submission. They will hold themselves to a standard and feel deficient because, “I’m not a viable sub because I can’t/don’t look like this” and it holds them back.

Again, what makes a sub a sub has nothing to do with physicality. A submissive is a servant at heart; they are there to serve domestically, skillfully, and often sexually. None of these service-oriented directives are dependent upon looking a certain way, as was previously written about in Never Stop Growing.

Let’s talk about working with what you got.

First, let’s talk about dick size. If you’re an Alpha and you’ve got a big dick, this doesn’t mean you’ve already “won the game”. Know how to use it beyond just drilling a hole in a bottom’s back-wall. If you’re average or even smaller than average, learn your angles if you want to please your partner. And if you don’t care about giving any semblance of reciprocal pleasure, then why are you even worrying about the size of your dick? You’re an Alpha; fuck like it. We’ve all seen screenshots from a porn scene of a hung guy fucking someone. We think, “This is going to be hot!” And then we watch the video and there is no energy there; it’s mechanical and pedantic. It’s because the size of the dick does not make you a good (or bad) fuck. That energy comes from within. Tap into your primal, Alpha energy. That is what you should be using to drive your fucking. The dick is just the conduit for that power.

And what about you subs? If you’re ever feeling insecure about the size of your dick, just remember this truth: 99% of Alphas don’t care about your dick or its size. Even in Tug of War, Alpha Titus recalled how the Felix (the Alpha bottom he was with) was more concerned with the energy of the session. If you’ve got a small dick, be proud of the ego boost it will give your Alpha when he’s with you. (Yes, we know we said dick size doesn’t matter, but we are too hard-coded to not have some degree of ego affixed to it.) If you’ve got a big dick, it doesn’t matter either. It can feel really good for us Alphas to fuck a hung bottom as his big cock thwacks against us. Either way, it doesn’t matter to us what your dick is like: big, small, locked, whatever. Unless you’re an Alpha bottom, the general motto for us Alphas is: Only one dick matters, and it’s never yours, faggot. And even then, it’s not about the size.

Next, height and build. Sure, it might be hot to think about being with someone who looks like “walking sex”. We all have preferences sexually, but when it comes down to it, no one truly cares so long as the wants/needs align and are fulfilled. And sure, it might mean having to reevaluate some of your angles in bed, but who doesn’t like a challenge or trying something new out? If you always keep to partners with the same set of dimensions, how boring would that be? Short tops, mount those tall subs; plant your cock in their ass like you’re planting your flag on a mountain. There is no height requirement necessary before you can call yourself an Alpha.

And if you’re still worried about your height as a shorter Alpha, just remember that cocksuckers are always shorter than us when they’re on their knees where they belong.

For you larger subs out there, make your Man feel “big”, and not in a physical level. Let the Alpha “fill the space in the room”. Let his voice tower over you. Feel small in his looming presence, and remind both yourself and him that your place in the hierarchy is always under him.

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Hierarchy is about shaping the world around us and affecting change, either as leaders or as followers. If you are truly committed to living a lifestyle of hierarchy in action, then don’t let anyone else tell you where you should be in the hierarchy based solely on your physicality.

If we limit ourselves and deny ourselves pleasure and fulfillment by allowing society’s toxic archetypes to determine our lives, our happiness, our destinies, then we are not living our truth. We are Alphas living in submission to others, and submissives living for someone other than our Alphas.