A hot guy catching his breath on a pause from a heavy run. The smooth lines of a tailored suit. The voice. The hands. The outline in his pants. The…? Physical characteristics are often the first things mentioned when someone is asked, but when you talk to couples in all varieties of power balance, it is rarely the physical that keeps them together.
Hook up with a physically hot guy and there is no guarantee he is not vapid or worse – boring. An average looking person (like most of us) who can carry a conversation, communicate effectively, and give proper service / take control of a session is always a better option. They may not be “model material”, but that doesn’t mean we won’t feel drawn to them upon meeting. Even for the most humble or self-conscious among us has something about them that makes them sexy. We challenged our community members to tell us what they think makes them sexy. Here’s what they had to say.
Lyric, our resident sub-pup, likes cuddles, and offers those in addition to his pup side doing a rousing game of fetch. His playful obedience (once house-broken) is just like a loyal pet, and that loyalty and devotion, along with his affectionate snuggles, is what makes him feel sexy to his handlers.
One of AsianAlpha‘s many sexy aspects (besides being a tiger behind closed doors) is his incredibly sexy voice. His voice may sound like he’s always wearing a 3-piece suit, but this fantasy is so different from the urbane man he is on the streets. That range exudes from his personality in everything he does, and is one of the first (of many) sexy things you’ll notice about him.
Although Max-boy is a switch, when he is in sub-mode, his obedience and dedication to Master’s orders are one of the things that he feels makes him sexy to Doms/Alphas. He listens, he obeys, and he is grateful.
Notice how none of these things are physical attributes? We’re not talking about perfect genetics. We’re not talking about time in the gym. We’re not talking about any of the myths associated with typical “beauty”. And yet, they are things we look for in a hierarchical partner: those intangibles which spark feelings deep within. They often defy explanation, but they drive us so strongly.
How often do you feel the dominance or submission of someone? The desire to kneel or be kneeled to? How often are you surprised that that man does not have what you generally are attracted to when you look at pictures or videos? We are 3-D, and our interests go far beyond the physical. Hierarchy is principled not on appearance, but on the ability of the other person to grab your attention and keep it through their effective demonstration of their role they were born with. A great sub is not a great sub because he is on the cover of GQ, but because he is obedient and offers a pure surrender. A Dom is not a great Dom because he has remarkable Leathers, but because he commands, controls, and cares for those he has claimed.
The physical can let you in, but it’s the person inside that is the hottest.
What do you find sexy? What is sexy about yourself? Share it in the comments below or on our Discord.
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