Welcome to a new feature here at Elysium Lifestyle. We will be featuring interviews with some of our members, asking them each the same ten questions. Don’t forget to stop on by our Discord to chat with them and other Elysians!

1. What role do you identify as and how does your style/interpretation of hierarchy align/differ from other styles you have come across?
I identify as a bisexual, Alpha-Dom. I have no interest in dicks, so I have never had the desire to suck a dick or get fucked. “The only cock that matters is mine,” or so the saying goes.
My style is very developmental, in that I like to train fags and leave them better skilled and ready to handle the needs and want for the next Alpha. The danger in this is that there can be over-attachment, but I make sure that these rules and “guardrails” are in place before I ever take on a sub.
That’s not to say that I can’t or haven’t used destructive techniques to train, but I am more comfortable using the “carrot” than the “stick”.

2. When did you realize and accept your role? What triggered your sexual awakening?
I’ve been an Alpha all my life, even when I didn’t know what that term actually meant. Always the defender. Always the protector. Always the leader. I truly embraced it sexually when I was in college. I caught my roommate, who I would now classify as a faggot, sniffing my dirty laundry. I had only been with women up until that point, and although I knew gay men, did not understand the effect an Alpha could have on a submissive faggot. It evolved to him doing things for me so I had more time for myself, before progressing to him providing sexual release to me on a regular (daily) basis through oral sex. Nothing was ever asked for or expected from him, only that I allow him to be in my presence. I haven’t looked back or regretted it since.

3. What was your first time fully experiencing your role like? 
The first few times my roommate did my laundry for me was, to be honest, awkward. I kept looking for “the catch”, and for him to want something more in return, but he never did. He was fulfilled by taking care of the little things that distracted me. 
The first time he sucked my dick, I had the dangerous combo of being slightly drunk and overly horny. I knew immediately how different it was to have a fag sucking your dick. With women, it is usually “a means to an end”, but with him, it was pure pleasure to just worship it. He didn’t have the hunger for cum that many fags do, but there was a feedback loop of pleasure as he tasted what he had longed for.

4. What do you look for / expect in someone with the opposite role?
Primarily, they have to be honest and open with themselves and with me. Communication is key. I don’t have time for liars, flakes, fantasizers, or people who play games. 
Physically, I don’t have a specific type, although I tend to gravitate towards a smooth twunk. That being said, I’d rather be with a heavy-set hirsute bear with an eager attitude than a gym queen who is more concerned with his hair getting messed up when I grab it.

5. What do you look for / expect in someone claiming to be of the same role?
I don’t like “yes men”, but educated and logical are two qualities I require from those I call “brothers”. My brothers usually share similar perspectives and views of the hierarchy but bring different expressions of it, which I find enlightening.

6. How do you develop your role to learn, grow, and improve?
After college, I moved to San Francisco and was trained as a dom by a really great mentor, Will. He helped me develop my potential through direct and indirect training. He really introduced me to the Dom/sub scene, helped me hone my power, and instilled in me the responsibility that comes from being an Alpha.
Self-reflection is important, and is different from self-doubt. I continue the mindset that “no one ever knows everything”, as there is always room to grow. It’s important to evaluate sessions to see what went right and what could be improved upon. 

7. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done / want to try / or do again?
I’ve done A LOT of things most consider kinky. All the basics are covered: rope play, pup play, bondage, etc. I had a 3-way with two (step) brothers. I’ve fucked guys while their wife watched. I’ve fucked in dark alleys, lowlit backrooms of bars, sex clubs, and once in public in the middle of the dance floor of a gay circuit party (White Party, Palm Springs, 2006). I’ve fucked in office buildings, hospitals, and once got head from a fireman behind his firehouse. I’ve had blue collar, white collar, and no-collar partners. I’ve been a top for watersports, fisting, and some creative things you wouldn’t normally associate with food. I’ve fucked pornstars and realized they’re just like the rest of us: some are fun, some aren’t. I’ve stripped for tips and entertained financial offers for sex.
I’ve fucked on (private) video before, but never for a studio. It’s something I have thought of before, but it’s not as fun as you might think; long days, if done right.

8. What was one of the best or worst experiences you’ve had in your role?
Worst involves scat and a guy’s “pink sock”. It was gross and I’m not even going to go there reliving that by writing about it.
Second worse would probably be this one time when I was a bull for a cuck couple. I had briefly talked to them before anything went down and thought that they were on the same page. Turned out that the cuck was coerced into the scene by his psychologically abusive partner and in a really bad mental headspace when everything went down. My mentor knew the couple and had advised me against getting mixed up in their mess, but being young and naive enough to think that I could handle the situation, I still got involved. As I was fucking the husband, the cuck began crying in the corner. Not the regular “cuck discomfort”, but full on breakdown crying. His husband started verbally abusing him in a way that was beyond a healthy level and the cuck was just breaking down on all levels. Realizing I was in over my head, I stopped fucking and got up to go. The husband got really pissed at his cuck and started punching him in the face with unbridled rage. The cuck, being tied, couldn’t even block the punches because he was strapped into his chair. I’m okay with a lot of things, but violence like that is way beyond that line. I shoved the husband on the bed and told him not to fucking move. I untied the cuck and took him to the ER.
I’d like to tell you that that that was the final straw for the cuck.
I’d like to tell you that he got his stuff from the apartment and never looked back.
I’d like to say that he pressed charges and the abusive boyfriend got what he deserved.
But I can’t. He went back to him and stayed in the abusive relationship. I would check in on him occasionally to see if things had improved in his life, but it was always the same.
I learned that you can’t save everyone and that not all stories have happy endings.

If you ever find yourself in this kind of situation, please talk with someone:
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Best experience, though, is not actually a (traditionally) happy story. I was brought in to a couple once as a surrogate bull for a couple who was no longer able to have intimate relations with each other. It was an unforgettable and transformative experience which Alpha Lyon was gracious enough to capture so beautifully here in The Two Davids.

9. What does “hierarchy” mean to you? What brings you joy since discovering the hierarchy?
“Hierarchy” means knowing your role and living up to your responsibilities. It means accepting the tributes you are given and leaving those who place their faith and trust in you better when they walk out that door. It is a beautiful concept when lived in the most productive way.

10. What advice would you give to someone new to the hierarchy?
Get to know yourself:
Know what you’re capable of and what you could improve. Know that you can’t possibly know everything, and always be open to learning.
Know what your limits are, both red-lines (absolutely no) and yellow-lines (open to experimenting with under the right situation).

Get to know others who share your role:
Surround yourself with sane, mentally healthy, and supportive people.
If you can find yourself a mentor, absolutely seize that opportunity.
Adopt what works for them into your “world” and discard what doesn’t. 

Get over yourself:
Don’t let pride or ego blind you. Learn to accept constructive criticism if provided.
You’re not going to be everyone’s type. Accept that and move on.
You don’t have to say “yes” to anyone and everyone, just to get that ego boost.

Learn:
Learn the distinctions between respect, power, and control. Accept that these can all be taken or earned, but only one of these methods is the way a true Alpha/Dom obtains these things.
Learn from your mistakes: no one is infallible, but the greats never make the same mistake twice.
Learn that fags and every submissive are people. We may fuck them like objects, but they have feelings, limits, and desires too. 

Always strive to improve and to be the best version of yourself you can be.