The following article builds upon the three-step model laid out in our Never Stop Growing article. Check out that original article for a full understanding of the three stages: Discovery, Acceptance, and Exploration.

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I realize how odd it might seem for an Alpha to be writing a primer on being a faggot, but I write this based on my experience with the hundreds of fags who have been privileged to kneel before me. As a developer-style Alpha, it’s in my DNA to observe, to document, and to share what I have learned so that others may grow and avoid some of the common pitfalls I’ve seen omegas make.

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Discovery

Discovering your place in the hierarchy can come from many different places. For some, it’s the thrill the first time someone calls you a “faggot”. For others, it’s watching porn where the bottom submits fully and you long to have your hair pulled back and spat on. And then there are those who have always taken pleasure in serving, sometimes non-sexually, and never correlating that this is hierarchy in action. For every submissive/fag, there is a unique story of discovery.

For men who do not identify as gay, this discovery can be even more disconcerting. Some already have families, or wives, or other commitments in their lives that make this realization something terrifying on a fundamental level. It is something we will explore at a later date, but if you are one of these types of people, know that you are not alone. Those feelings you have are valid, but if you repress them, they will only come back stronger and more twisted. “The truth will set you free”.

Just remember: not all gay men are submissives/faggots, not all bottoms are submissives/faggots, and using a submissive/faggot does not make you gay, as outlined in our In The Dark, All Cats Are Grey post.

Regardless of how you came to discover your place, what matters most is that you discovered it. The feelings you may be having – confusion, joy, nervousness, excitement, fear – these are all common emotions and the first step in living your life as a submissive/faggot.

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Acceptance

It can be unbalancing for some to discover that they are a submissive/faggot, as polite society has often said that “all men are created equally” or that “submission equals weakness”. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

Some men are Alphas, born to lead and shape the world around them.
Some men are omegas, born to follow and handle the little things in the life of Men so that they have the time and energy to do what they were born to do.

A crucial component in accepting one’s role as a submissive/faggot is the death of the ego. There is no “I” or “Me” in “faggot”. Let me be clear: this does not mean that you become a mindless slave without agency or the right to have limits. What it means is that your pleasure derives from the pleasure of Alphas and in serving them. Their pleasure is your pleasure. When you abandon the primary focus of your own self-gratification, you will find that opportunities for pleasure truly are around you at every turn if you live a life of submissive service to those who are worthy.

This is often one of the hardest stages of submissive/faggot development, especially when we live lives that often require us to tap into our egos in the “polite world”. You will have to learn to code-switch, but know that the person behind the façade, behind that mask you wear in public – that person is a submissive/faggot longing to embrace their place as an omega to Alphas.

If you are one of the many who struggles with this, here is an exercise for you:
1. Write a short, personal mantra, such as, “I am a faggot for superior Alphas.”
2. Stand in front of a mirror and repeat it out loud, over and over.
3. Look at yourself as you say those words and hear the truth behind the message. You might feel emotional, you might feel silly, you might feel nothing, but the important thing is to witness yourself speaking truth to the world. Say these words and own the strength of them.

We are all born with a role destined for us. There is no shame in living that role to its fullest, even if the truth is that you were born to be an omega. Accept that your life will (probably) be different from how you once foresaw it, but that does not mean that it will not be in any way less fulfilling.

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Exploration

Just sucking dicks or getting fucked won’t make you a better submissive/faggot. It probably won’t even make you a ”good” submissive/faggot. You want to be a ”true” submissive/faggot? Here are three foundational truths to remember as you begin to explore your submissive/faggot nature:

1. Your sexual pleasure does not matter (unless it is the will of the Alpha).

There is nothing more distracting than a submissive/faggot who gets lost in its own pleasure at the expense of quality service. This goes back to the “destruction of ego”, as mentioned above. The fundamental purpose for omegas in the hierarchy is to serve others. To be concerned with one’s own sexual pleasure over another’s is antithetical to the foundational tenants of hierarchy. This is why many Alphas feel that faggot ejaculation should only be done for health reasons and not for pleasure without permission.

Some Alphas enjoy giving sexual pleasure or release to their omegas. While there is nothing wrong with this, this pleasure comes from their direction, and not the wants of the submissive/faggot. In fact, it can be quite rewarding for an Alpha to make his submissive/faggot cum purely from sexual use. It might take some time for that sexual sensitivity to build in a submissive/faggot, but the feeling of control and power it gives to the Alpha is pleasurable for both parties. Ultimately, it is about the Alpha having complete control over the submissive’s/faggot’s orgasms.

Some Alphas enjoy locking their faggots in chastity. Chastity can be a very effective tool for controlling and directing focus. As a submissive/faggot, you must be prepared for this as an option and know ahead of time if this is something you are comfortable with, willing to explore, or if you view this as a red-line / hard limit. While chastity is not right for all submissives/faggots, it is definitely an effective tool to help omegas remember their place in the hierarchy and keep their attention where it should be: on the Alpha.

For a personal account of how chastity helped one faggot accept their role in the hierarchy, we recommend reading The Honor of Chastity.

2. Be mindful and attentive.

It’s frustrating when a submissive/faggot thinks he knows how to please me, based on his previous experiences. Each of us Alphas like different things, and often it may even change depending on our mood in that moment.

Pay attention to what makes an Alpha react positively and makes him moan; do more of those things. Pay attention to what makes an Alpha react negatively; avoid doing those things. A submissive’s/faggot’s challenge is to pay attention to his Alpha’s pleasure, not his own. Focus on His gratification, and only His gratification.

The best submissives/faggots understand that each Alpha is highly unique and those omegas will tune into His unique needs and desires.

3. Listen Carefully, For The Devil Is In The Details.

Building upon the previous point, pay attention to the little differences. Take these two commands, for example:

“Suck my cock” vs. “Suck me off”

A skilled Alpha will be very specific with the words they chose to use, so understand the differences.
“Suck my cock” means the goal is to give extended pleasure in worshiping his Alpha cock.
“Suck me off” means the goal is to make the Alpha cum and cum hard.
Failure to either follow instructions or ask for clarification is unlikely to get a callback for repeated service. Remember: it is better to respectfully ask for clarification than to fail to follow an instruction correctly.

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Realizing that you are an omega, born to serve Alphas, can be a difficult journey. Society may not laud you like it praises Alphas upon their recognition of their truth, but in our hierarchical community, you will find others who have been where you are, who have succeeded in their growth, and who can help you accept and explore your discovered role with pride and purpose.

It can be tough, filled with stumbles and setbacks and failures. But with proper dedication, it can be done so you can live your life as you were meant to: as a pure, unapologetic submissive, faggot, or whatever you choose to call your role as an omega in the hierarchy.

We will continue looking at how to explore your submission/faggotry in “faggotry: 102”, but until then, what do you think? Do you have any advice as a submissive/faggot for others? Sound off in the comments below.