Welcome to a new feature here at Elysium Lifestyle. We will be featuring interviews with some of our members, asking them each the same ten questions. This week, being the week of lambda switches, we interview oboy1, our main #muscle-worship contributor on Discord.

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1. What role do you identify as, and how does your style/interpretation of this role align/differ from other styles you have come across?

I identify myself as a switch. That means many different things to different people. For me, being a switch means I will submit to people that I feel are 1) Dom/Alphas, 2) stable, and 3) someone whose kink and personality meshes well with mine. I do not sub for all Doms and will not sub for a guy who I see as a sub. 

For the Dom side, I love to control and explore the erotic sides of a sub and get into rules, roles, and pleasure control. 

2. When did you realize and accept your role? What triggered your sexual awakening?

When I was 18, I got into my first kink – hypnosis – and was working with a “Dom” who was trying to control me. I ended up taking control of him and had a very fun time MAKING him feel pleasure.

3. What was your first time fully experiencing your role like?

Hard to say as even though I did try both roles the first time I did not really feel that I was the full Dom during that session. I did not sub til later with a Dom when I was at least 23. Finding subs is easy for many reasons, Finding Doms was a bit harder as there are far less and many did not understand that I could be a Dom in some way.

4. What do you look for / expect in someone of the opposite role?

What I look for in the other person:
1. to understand their role or have an idea of what it is to be a sub or Dom.
2. a willingness to explore and understand limits.
3. say what they really want.

From Doms:

1. To hear what I can/will give.
2. Help guide me to be better.

From Subs:

1. To really want to sub and not be a little hook up. If they are not willing to schedule, and want it now and only now, then no.
2. To explain what they want or know the direction they want to go in. None of that fake rape fantasy bs.

5. What do you look for / expect in someone claiming to be of the same role?

I expect a person with my same role to understand that switch is the blanket term for all those who don’t fit perfectly at the extreme ends of hierarchy. There are many levels.

6. How do you develop your role to learn, grow, and improve?

I learned my role by exploring things with other Doms and subs, open to hear what they do, why they do it, and what they feel from it. I keep an open mind and enjoy people enjoying their role and their kinks.

7. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done / want to try / or do again?

As a sub I was under the control of a BDSM Dom who restrained me with different gear (standing up, tied down to on the floor, with balls and hand in a humbler) with electric play and forced cumming.

As a Dom it would have to be the time I had a man deep in trance out of him mind cumming hands-free (note: only good hypno subjects can do that as good so while I did that a few times to different guys, I can’t do that to all men lol.)

8. What was one of the best or worst experiences you’ve had in your role?

One of the best times was when I got one of those super big porn star dildos to try out… and found out I could not take it. A Dom friend of mine saw I wanted to try it and because of how Dom he was/is, he had me ass up with it half way in with no pain. Strong Dom eye contact told me to open up and take it… loved it

Worst? A guy who it was the first time meeting with was trying to get me to be his bottom that night when I told him no. I was fine and in no real danger at that time, but when limits are not met it can be scary.

9. What does “hierarchy” mean to you? What brings you joy since discovering the hierarchy?

Hierarchy is not that new to me. I have always said that I am into hierarchy where there is someone above me and some below. It’s about respecting the man in the role they are. When I am under a Dom, it is my job to raise them up to the rightful place. For those below it is my place to make them feel safe and free from the burden of controlling themselves.

10. What advice would you give to someone new to the hierarchy?

No matter the role, a sub should raise up those he feels should be above him. The sub role is not a worthless one, and…

…any “Dom” who thinks subs are just shit that they walk all over is a “man” who likes to walk in shit. 

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